Parents expect to live rent-free at 32-year-old son's home, he gives them 3 free months, but then stands firm on $800 rent, parents aghast: 'Family doesn't charge family!

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  • Senior parents enjoying a cup of coffee at their adult son's home
  • "Am I the [worsts] for charging my parents rent after they moved in without asking?"

    My parents (both 58) sold there house 3 months ago. They said they were downsizing to a apartment.
  • Except they never got the apartment. Instead they showed up at MY house (I'm 32M) with all there stuff and said they're "staying temporarily" while they look for a place.
  • I was shocked but said okay for a few weeks. That was 3 months ago. They've made zero effort to find a place. They're completely settled in.
  • They've taken over my spare bedroom and my home office. I'm working from my bedroom now. They rearranged my kitchen. My dad watches TV in my living room all day.
  • I asked when they're planning to move and my mom said "We're looking but nothing feels right yet."
  • I told them they need to start paying rent - $800/month which is way below market rate. They were OFFENDED.
  • My dad said "You're going to charge your own parents rent?" I said they're living in my house, using my utilities, eating my food. Yes, they should contribute.
  • My mom started crying about how they raised me and this is how I repay them. That family doesn't charge family.
  • I said family also doesn't move in uninvited and refuse to leave. They said they're hurt that I see them as a burden.
  • I'm standing firm on the rent. They haven't paid yet and its been 2 weeks since I asked. My siblings are calling me greedy and heartless for charging our parents.
  • But they have money from selling there house! They can afford to contribute!
  • TL;DR: Parents moved into my house without real permission 3 months. ago, I'm charging rent, they say family doesn't charge family.
  • Lived-in living room with blankets and comforter on the couch
  • Sassy-Peanut Definitely call your siblings and tell them to come and fetch them - their stuff will be on the landing waiting! You're not being mean - since family helps family, it's their turn.
  • FairyPetal12 lol honestly tho, funny how "family helps family" only applies when it's OP doing the helping. if the siblings feel that strongly, they can absolutely step up and take them in
  • Leather Patient4649 OP Agreed. That's how I feel.. everyone keeps saying family helps family but somehow that only applies to me right me right now and not anywome eless...
  • BlazingSunflowerland You will have to give them an eviction notice. Ask your siblings which one wants to come and get them. You seem to be their retirement plan. They likely sold the house because they had to pay off debt.
  • Cozy Blissful That retirement plan line is kinda scary but also makes sense. It doesn't feel temporary anymore, it feels like they settled in without saying it out loud.
  • Big_Truck_8268 Oh ELL NO. A week or two maybe, but to quote my dad "my house, my rules" CozyBlissful Exactly. A short stay is one thing, but months with no effort to leave is a whole different situation. At that point "my house, my rules" isn't even harsh, it's just reality.
  • Difficult Ad_1923 Tell them as long as they live under your roof they need to follow your rules.

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